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Should I Stay Friends with My Ex?

Published 06/09/2022 by Joanne Jones

Should I Stay Friends With My Ex?

One of the complex questions to answer when you break up from a romantic relationship is: should you stay friends with your ex-partner? On the one hand, it can be nice to remain mutual friends with someone who was once an essential part of your life. On the other hand, seeing your ex every day can remind you of what didn't work out and end up leaving it on bad terms, making it more difficult to move on. Ultimately, there's no right answer or wrong answer to this - it depends on your situation and relationship history. If you struggle to decide whether or not to stay friends with your ex, here are a few things to consider. First, ask yourself if you're genuinely over your ex. If not, a platonic relationship will not work for you. It's probably best to take some time apart until you're in a better place emotionally.

Also, consider how your friends would affect any future partner you might find. Would it be a distraction or provide support? Finally, talk to your ex or a relationship expert about your feelings and intentions - they may have their thoughts on the matter you need to respect. Answering these questions honestly will take a great deal of time but ultimately help you decide whether staying friends with your ex is right for you.

15 Signs You’re Not Ready to Be Just Friends With Your Ex

If you're thinking about renewing your friendship with your ex, there are some essential things to consider first. Here are 15 signs that you're not quite ready to be "just friends":

  1. You still have feelings for them. So any unresolved feelings need to be aired out. It's impossible to be just friends with someone if you still have romantic feelings for them. If you are constantly daydreaming about getting back together, it's a clear sign that you're not ready to be friends.
  2. You're jealous of their new partner. Jealousy is only going to create bad feelings. If you can't stand the thought of your ex being with someone else, it's a sign that you're not over them yet. Jealousy is a normal emotion after a breakup, but if it's preventing you from moving on, it's time to let go.
  3. You avoid talking about your new love interests. You may be on amicable terms, so test the water. Are you able to feel comfortable talking about a potential new sexual relationship? When you're friends with someone, there's no reason to avoid discussing your other love interests. If you feel uncomfortable or even jealous when your ex mentions their romantic partner, it's a sign that you're not ready to be in a platonic relationship yet.
  4. You compare yourself to their new partner. If you constantly compare yourself to your ex's new partner, it's a sign that you're not over them yet. Especially true if you feel like you're coming up short in the comparison. Remember that everyone is unique, and there's no such thing as a "perfect" partner.
  5. If you attempt to make them jealous by flirting with other people in front of them is an immature way of trying to get attention from your ex, and it will only make things awkward between you two. If you want to be on friendly terms with someone, you need to be respectful of their relationship.
  6. You mention old arguments or hurt feelings in conversation; this is a clear yet bad sign you are still hurt and in love. If you find yourself constantly bringing up old arguments or hurt feelings, it's a sign that you're not ready to move on from the past yet.
  7. You stalk them on social media or try to spy on them in person. We've all thought of stalking our exes on social media after a breakup, but if you're doing it out of jealousy or spite, it's a clear sign that you're not ready to be friends yet. The same goes for spying on them in person; if you can't respect their privacy, you're not ready for friendship.
  8. You talk about them incessantly (in a negative way). Talking about your ex all the time (in a negative way) is a clear sign that you haven't moved on yet and are not ready to accept them moving into a new romantic relationship yet. It is unfair to talk about someone behind their back like this, and it will likely drive away any potential friends who don't want to hear about your relationship drama all the time.
  9. All of your conversations seem to lead back to them. Even if you try to avoid it, while it may seem harmless enough, it can become pretty obsessive and tiresome for both parties involved. If you are in this situation, staying away from that person is probably best until you've had time to move on properly.
  10. You're still hung up on what went wrong. After a breakup, it's natural to dwell on what went wrong and how things could've been different had things gone another way. However, if you're still obsessively thinking about them all the time, then you are not ready to move forward.
  11. Obsessive thoughts. Usually overwhelming feelings of sadness and resentment.
  12. Closest friends or obsessed? You may think you have reached the "only friends" milestone. If you feel threatened at the thought of them spending too much time with a particular person, this will lead to a toxic relationship with them as the love is still there, so the potential for hurt is high.
  13. You re-live past times with them. You are talking through old memories together. Places you went, dates you went on, things you did together. These are all signs neither partner is ready to let go and move on.
  14. You avoid their calls or text. When you spot their name appearing on the phone screen, your heart falls to the floor, yet filled with excitement simultaneously. If you feel like this, a successful friendship won't work just yet as you are still very much in love.
  15. Seeing them happy hurts you. If seeing your ex having a good time without you fills you with hurt or annoys you. It's because you want them to live those times with you still, so any kind of friendship would not be viable.

What Are the Risks of Staying Close With Your Ex?

While staying close with your ex may seem like a good idea, several potential risks remain. For one thing, it cannot be easy to remain friends with someone you used to be romantically involved with, and there may be lingering feelings of attraction or jealousy that can get in the way of your friendship. Additionally, staying close with your ex can prevent you from moving on and finding new love. If you constantly compare your new partner to your old one, it won't be easy to build a healthy relationship. Finally, staying in close contact with an ex can make it more challenging to let go of the past and move forward in your life. If you find yourself dwelling on past mistakes or wondering what could have been, it may be time to step away and start fresh.

Would You Mind If Your New Partner Was Friends With His Ex?

If you're in a new relationship, it's natural to feel jealous if your partner is still friends with his ex. After all, you want to be the only person in his life, and the thought of him maintaining a close friendship with someone from his past can threaten your relationship. However, there are some positive reasons to consider letting your partner stay friends with his ex. For one thing, it can signify that he can maintain healthy relationships. If he can remain friends with his ex, it shows that he's willing to put aside his personal feelings to maintain a friendship. That's a valuable skill to have in any relationship.

Additionally, if your partner is friends with his ex, it means he's probably not still hung up on her. If he were still interested in her, he wouldn't be able to be friends with her. So, if you're okay with your partner being friends with his ex, it can be a good sign for your relationship.

Should I Stay Friends With My Ex-family?

Anyone who has gone through a divorce can attest that the process is often fraught with emotion. Sadness and anger come at the end of any relationship. There is also the question of what to do with the shared friends and family members. Some may choose to stay friends with their ex's family, while others prefer to sever all ties. There's no right or wrong answer, but here are a few things to consider before deciding. First, think about how comfortable you are around your ex's family. If seeing them reminds you of the pain of your divorce, it may be best to distance yourself for a while.

On the other hand, if you have fond memories of holidays and gatherings with your ex's family, staying in touch may help keep those positive memories alive. Second, consider your reasons for wanting to stay friends with your ex's family. If you hope they will eventually reconcile you with your ex, you may be setting yourself up for disappointment. On the other hand, staying in touch may be worthwhile if you genuinely enjoy spending time with them and value their friendship. Ultimately, only you can decide whether staying friends with your ex's family is right for you. But taking some time to reflect on your feelings and motivations can help you make a decision that aligns with your needs.

Do You Still Have Feelings of Hurt and Anger Over the Break-Up?

Breakups are never easy. Whether a mutual or a unilateral decision, the end of a relationship can leave us feeling hurt, angry, and confused. It's normal to need some time to process these emotions and figure out what comes next. But if you find yourself weeks or months later still feeling stuck in these negative feelings, it may be time to seek professional kind of help. A therapist can provide support and guidance as you work through the pain of your breakup and build a new life for yourself. If you struggle to move on after your breakup, reach out for help. It may be just what you need to start feeling better.

How Can a Love Advisor Help With a Breakup?

Going through a breakup can be tricky. It can be very challenging to let go of someone you care about and even harder to deal with the aftermath of a broken relationship. Whether you're the one who ended the relationship or you were the one who was left behind, it's natural to feel overwhelmed, confused, and even angry. That's where a love advisor can help. A love advisor is someone who specializes in helping people through breakups. They can provide guidance and support as you navigate this difficult time. They can also offer unbiased advice and help you to see the situation from a different perspective. If you're struggling to deal with a breakup, consider reaching out to a Trusted Psychics love advisor for help.

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